Friday, May 3, 2013

RELATIONSHIPS


What a hard thing to define and classify your relationships!! very complicated intersections and overlaps take place with many people in different areas. And it is sometimes really hard to answer Where are you in those? But as I go through all the circles I dealt with during my age, within family, childhood, education, business, ministry, relatives, traveling and all other relations; I noticed that I have different levels of relationships, I classify the ones that I do care about and glad to keep as follows:

1- I have may be fifteen thousands persons or more whom I don't know them in person, I respect them so much, I work to please them. Our relation is usually through the virtual world, I met few of them although I wish to meet every one of them in person, I work on each and every opportunity to get connected with whoever click a like or drop me a word.. They are my career thermometer, my motivators, inspirers and support.. People call them "Fans" I call them the "Fan-tastic People"
2- I met few couples of thousands persons where we have dealt few times. I don’t mind to meet any of them again if this happened by chance. I call them “The Public Relations”
3- I know more than a thousand people I met among the years where we have mutual respect, and I feel happy to see them if there could be a chance for that. I call them “The Community”
4- I know more than five hundreds persons where we can spend an hour or two together with a very good level of communication and understanding. We have some common points of interest and priorities. I do look forward to meet them again. I call them “The Common Unity”
5- I have tens whom I really care about them and I love to share with them my and their happiness and sorrows, I feel joyful and comfortable with them, and I work on meeting them every now and then. I call them “Friends”
6- But I have few and really few people whom I feel that we are really bounded in a relation that takes quite good portion of my time / life, thinking, putting my self in their shoes, trying to analyze their challenges and threats, and sometimes issues that they may not know about. I do feel responsible all the time, and sometimes I feel I have rights for some actions accordingly. I love if they can exchange me the same role, but I don't get upset when they don't. One thing can break this relation; when it is a price for something good for them. Only one expectation I have; I’m one of their top mental speed dials for any emergency or need. With those few people I hate two words to be used, “thank you” & “sorry” no thanks for what I have to do, and no sorry because I’m sure there is nothing done on purpose to hurt; unintentional acts does not need clarifications with this group. I call them “My Nest Members”
7- I do have less than seven intimate friends. They are all males, where we can spend days and nights; we can be apart for months and may be years without blames, but once we come together we feel like we didn’t separate. I need them in my hard and good times, we might talk for hours and but we can stay hours in silence without getting bored. We feel happy when we are together no matter what we are doing. I can think loudly when they are here. It is not only I don’t mind to tell them about my challenges and problems, but I try to find the chance to do so. The problem that I have to say here is that not all of the spiritually as stable as needed for such a level of relationship. I call them “The Gang”
8- I do have three, they call me when I’m down and lift me up, they can chase me when I’m out of track, and support me when I’m about to collapse. I call them as they are “My Tuners, Advisors and My Elders”
9- I have a son whom I don’t own, but I’m responsible for, I do take decisions for him when he can’t but I do share with him my feelings and experiences, only two outcomes can be, either a Godly man or a bomb to explode, I try to do him the minimum I can, to put him in to life as fast as he can, I deal with him as a man from his first day. I may lose him at anytime, but I do look on the times we spent together. I feel guilty for not making the best investment in that times in spite I do talk to him sometimes while he is asleep. Surely I impacted him negatively hundreds of times, and maybe I was a cause of some deformations took place in his character unintentionally. I called him from his day one “Unique”
10- And surely I have one life partner, the person whom I live for even if I did not satisfy the maximum and I might be the incomplete everything for her. I love her so much even when I don’t show this too much. I can count her heart beats distantly; we understand each other without even an eye contact. The only person who gave me all his life and got too little from me, the sound of conscience, she is my daughter, my sister and my wife, she is the continues support, the full care I need, covering all my life aspects, without here I’m a big nothing.  She is very much reliable and responsible, honest and genuine, powerful and delicate, emotional to the max; she always has greater expectations than what I afford. I can call her “My Backbone”

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